When someone books their first session with me, they usually receive a short email the week before. It is not a marketing message. It is a checklist. The items on it are small, practical, and easy to overlook, but together they change the shape of a session more than most people expect. I wanted to put the whole thing somewhere visible, both for clients preparing for a session in Laren and for anyone curious about what goes into arriving ready.
- Sleep well the two nights before, not just the night immediately preceding
- Write your list of questions the evening before, not the morning of
- Eat a light, grounding meal two to three hours before arriving, nothing heavy or sugary
- Come with a printed or written list rather than trusting memory under low alpha mind states
- Allow at least one quiet hour after the session before returning to demanding conversations or driving long distances
The night before matters more than the morning of
Almost every client asks about the morning of the session. What they usually should be asking about is the two evenings before. Something I often see is that people who sleep well the night before but poorly the night before that arrive with a nervous system that cannot quite soften. Two consecutive nights of ordinary sleep does more for a session than any breathing exercise taken on the morning itself.
I also ask clients to resist the urge to do heavy research on the method in the final twenty-four hours. Reading about past life regression, watching session videos, or searching online for what to expect tends to activate the analytical mind right before we want it to step back. If you have already read the general preparation notes, that is enough. More is not better.
Write your questions the evening before
Every QHHT session opens with a list. The client arrives with the questions they most want the subconscious to address, and we go through them together at the start. What I have learned from hundreds of these lists is that the version written the evening before the session is almost always clearer than the version written on the drive over. The evening version has been sitting with the client overnight. The morning version is rushed.
Write between eight and fifteen questions, prioritised in order of importance. Do not worry about phrasing. The subconscious is less literal than we think. Something I often see is that the question a client thought was most important turns out to be secondary once we begin, and a question they almost did not include becomes the opening of the whole session. Write them all down. The order will sort itself. I have written about the kinds of questions clients typically bring, if you need examples.
Eat light, but do eat
Clients who skip breakfast to feel more focused often arrive with blood sugar dips that interfere with the relaxation phase. Clients who eat heavily within an hour of the session often find the body drawing attention down into digestion. A simple meal, two to three hours before arriving, works best. Oatmeal with fruit. Eggs and toast. Soup. Nothing sugary, nothing deep fried, no caffeine past the morning coffee.
Bring a bottle of water with you. A session lasts several hours, and the body uses more water than clients expect during trance. There is no need to drink constantly, but having water within reach removes one more thing the conscious mind would otherwise track.
Bring the list on paper
This is a small point that turns out to matter. Bring your question list printed or handwritten, not on your phone. In my experience, the simple act of handing over a piece of paper at the start of a session lowers the tension in a way that scrolling does not. It also means that when we go through the questions together, the room is not glowing with a screen. Small details like this shape the nervous system before the trance work begins.
If you are driving to Laren, the list should be finalised before you leave. Adding questions in the car rarely produces better ones. The list, once written, is already doing work in the background. By the time you arrive in Het Gooi, the subconscious has quietly started to organise.
What to wear and bring
Comfortable clothes, the sort you would wear for a long flight. Layers, because the body temperature shifts during deep relaxation and the room can feel colder than you expect. Remove watches and tight jewellery before the session begins. No perfume or strong scents. A small blanket or shawl if you tend to feel cold. That is the whole list.
Leave your phone on silent, not vibrate. The nervous system registers vibration as interruption even when conscious attention does not. Ideally, leave the phone in the car or in another room of the practice. This is more important than it sounds. I have written about what the room itself is designed to feel like, and the absence of device signals is part of what makes it quiet.
The afternoon after
The last item on the checklist is the one most often underestimated. After a QHHT session in Laren, the body and mind continue to process for hours, sometimes for days. I ask clients not to drive long distances immediately afterwards, and not to schedule demanding meetings or difficult conversations in the afternoon that follows. A walk, a quiet lunch, a nap if the body asks. These are not optional. They are the integration phase, and skipping them compresses the benefits of the session into a smaller window than the work deserves.
Something I often see is that clients who plan their post-session hours as carefully as their pre-session preparation get more out of the work. The session itself is only part of what happens. The stillness afterwards is where much of the shift settles into place.
